“The Older The Better”
Hello from a brand new 40-year-old! Turning 40 feels like a gift. Another opportunity to start fresh. To leave things behind that do not serve me well and be intentional in moving forward into this new stage of life. It feels good. Good to leave my 30s behind me and step into a truer version of myself as I welcome my 40s. I am not scared of growing older. I mean yes, I do have the struggles that society has engrained into women to fear the wrinkles, grey hair, and body changes, but I refuse to let those messages rule me. I am working hard every day to rewire my brain and embrace myself fully in every stage of life.
My new habit when I get up, is taking a moment to look at myself in the mirror and smile. When I do this, I find myself saying “I’m proud of you. You are doing it. You are a badass. Go be you today. You got this.” It’s so simple but it really helps me. It sets me off into my day with a positive attitude and reminds me of how far I have come even when it’s a tough day ahead of me. Otherwise, I just get up and rush into the routine with stress at my heels, always telling me to hurry, hurry, hurry. And let me tell you: that’s never a great way to start your day.
Here are my goals for this new age I get to be:
Worry less about how others feel and more about how I feel.
Listen to my body. Take a moment to listen, for god’s sake.
Stop giving guilt so much space in my brain. I waste way too much energy on guilt.
Loving aging. Boldly loving myself.
Not putting my value on how others respond to me. This one may be my hardest.
Slowing down. Less rushing. Less pressure. Less worry.
Exploring the depths of my sexuality. Allowing myself to think outside the box.
It’s not an all-inclusive list but it’s a good start. Mainly, I feel like the older I get, the more intentional I become. What a gift it is to be here on planet Earth and have the opportunity to experience human existence. Sure, it can be shit hard. Yes, to be human is to know pain. But we also get the chance to create an amazing life, to feel what it feels to be loved, to give love to others, and to spend our whole life discovering all the unending intricacies that make us who we are.
It’s complicated, this gift of life. The more I learn in life, the more I realize how little I know and understand about life. But that’s another thing I am learning to accept. I don’t have to have it all figured out. Nobody does, honestly. Some people are just really good at convincing others that they have the answers for how to live life “right”. It’s bullshit though. Just another marketing strategy to get people to surrender their power.
That’s not me anymore. I won’t be giving my autonomy away ever again. The more I learn about myself, the better I get at taking care of myself. This is why getting older makes me excited! Just imagine how less bullshit I will put up with when I’m 90 years old! I’ll be much more secure in myself, be fully aware of what my body wants, and I won’t give a damn ounce of energy to those who try and shame my vibe. Yep, I think 90 is gonna be awesome. But until then, 40 isn’t quite so bad. Scratch that: 40 is fucking great!
My beloved friends, do yourself a favor this week. Look into that mirror and look deep into your eyes. Let the negative judgments pass right on by and instead take a moment to recognize the incredible human staring back at you. You are gorgeous. You are alive. You are worthy of receiving everything you desire.
Each day we get older.
It’s not a cause for concern. It’s a reason to celebrate!
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